Chosen Woman: The Membership
Stop winging your love life.
Stop chasing, overthinking and spiralling. Become the woman a good man never stops pursuing and prioritising.
Has your love life left you feeling…
Like you can't trust your gut anymore.
You only see the red flags in hindsight, second guess your decisions and intuition, or replay situations for days wondering if it's you or him.
Wide awake at 2am over one text.
His energy shifts and your mood changes with it. You spend an annoying amount of time decoding his behaviour or rewriting the same message before you send.
Exhausted from being the giver.
You pour everything in to your relationships, carry most of the effort, and feel like an afterthought instead of a priority.
Sick of low effort men.
The charming ones who go all in, then pull away unexpectedly or switch up on you once you're official.
More his mother than his lover.
You remind, manage, carry the mental load, and the desire got lost somewhere between the admin and being on autopilot mode.
Stuck having the same fight on a loop.
Same triggers, same arguments, same silence after, and nothing actually changes.
Scared you've left it too late.
Watching everyone else get married or moving forward in life and you're wondering when it'll be your turn.
Done shrinking yourself to be picked.
You want love, but not the version where you have to shrink yourself or play games to keep him.
Needed, but not wanted.
He relies on you, he loves you… but you can't remember the last time he made you feel desired and adored.
Circling the same question or decision for months.
You're confused. Is he the problem, or is it you? Is he toxic or are you overthinking it? Is it your trauma or your intuition?
You're not the only one.
I surveyed my community of 48,000 women:
overthinking and anxious
attract avoidant, low effort men
see the pattern, repeat it anyway
spiral for days when he pulls away
Thousands of self-aware women, doing everything right, still not chosen the way they want. You're not broken. You're lacking the correct advice for your unique situation.
You want to be the woman he feels lucky to be with.
What you actually want:
- Safe love AND hot sex
- To attract your husband in the next 1-2 years
- Romance and effort WITHOUT having to nag for it
- Communication that brings you closer, not the same fight on repeat
- To feel grounded and secure, not spiralling or shrinking
- To keep your heart open, without tolerating bad behaviour
You have the power to change this.
Even with an avoidant man, you can shape the dynamic in your favour. And it doesn't require chasing, nagging or shrinking yourself. You stay warm and open, never cold or guarded.
The chosen woman doesn't:
- spiral for 3 days over a text
- over-give to earn love
- tolerate bare minimum effort
- passive-aggressively nag or mother her man
- feel invisible in her relationship
Instead, she:
- holds her standards unapologetically
- inspires men to pursue and prioritise her
- easily walks away from what's beneath her
- chooses herself and is chosen
She's chosen because she stopped auditioning to be.
Become the woman who knows she's the prize, and is treated like it.
Coaching on the exact thing keeping you up at night.
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3 live calls a month
Hot-seat format. Bring the real situation, the man, the message, the decision,
and get coached on it directly. No generic modules or cookie cutter advice. - 02
Replays of everything
Can't make it live? Every call is recorded to access anytime.
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The full toolkit
The moment you join, get access to:
- The Red Flag Handbook(value: $99)
- How to Get and Keep Queen Treatment(value: $555)
- 12 Questions for a Hot Marriage(value: $29.99)
- Uncover Your Relationship Blind Spots E-Journal(value: $39.99)
Collectively worth $723.98 — included.
You want him healthily obsessed with you... minus the love bombing.
There are two versions of being wanted.
The love bomber
He's the one bringing grand gestures and intensity. He's obsessed with you on Monday, then ghosting you by Friday. And you're done with the rollercoaster.
The man who feels lucky
Is steady, yet passionate. He adores you. And he leads and romances you because he wants to, not because he was told to.
Inside Chosen Woman, you'll learn how to repel the wrong men and attract and keep the healthy love you deserve.
You're the self aware one. But who's helping you see your blind spots?
The more self-aware you are, the better you get at explaining why you are how you are, and the more clever your excuses become to stay the same.
Because awareness doesn't = change.
It's why you know your patterns and still self-sabotage.
It's why you've done therapy and know your attachment style but have the same triggers and relationship friction.
It's why you know what you want but settle for less once feelings are involved.
A blind spot is the one thing you can't reach on your own. Yours might be hiding behind all the inner work you've already done.
This is what coaching is for.
Your friends, ChatGPT and tarot readings won't call you out, but I will.
Chosen Woman is for you if...
Single or dating
You keep attracting low-effort or avoidant men, you want to meet your husband in the next year or two, and you want to stop chasing and start attracting without games.
In a relationship
You feel unchosen or bored, there's more resentment than romance, and you want to feel butterflies for each other again.
Either way
You're done spiralling and feeling disappointed, and you're ready for it to show up in your love life.
Your founding membership
- 3 live group coaching calls every month
- Replays of every call
- The Red Flag Handbookworth $99
- How to Get and Keep Queen Treatmentworth $555
- 12 Questions for a Hot Marriageworth $29.99
- Uncover Your Relationship Blind Spots E-Journalworth $39.99
- Cancel anytime, no lock-in contracts
Founding price. It rises to $129/month once the first 50 spots are gone. Lock yours in now.
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About Amy
Dating and Relationship Coach. Author of The Red Flag Handbook.
I've coached hundreds of women through exactly these situations: attracting their future husband, the avoidant men, the stay-or-leave decisions, reviving the marriages that went flat, the annoying challenges you can't seem to move past as a couple.
I won't tell you what you want to hear. I'll tell you what's really going on, and what to do about it.
Frequently asked questions
Yes. About half the women here are single, half are partnered. Singles say watching relationship hot seats taught them exactly what to look for.
Come and watch. Most members say someone else's hot seat answered their question word for word.
Every call is recorded so you can watch the replays anytime.
Anytime. Month to month, no lock-in contract.
You're winging the most important decisions of your life.
Asking ChatGPT (terrible idea). Polling your friends. Listening to advice that isn't right for your situation. It costs you hours of overthinking, or years spent in the wrong relationship.
Or you could get coached by me and get honest, effective answers and instant clarity.